May 2015

Liar - Liar... "Im kicking my Ass!!!" video clip:
https://youtu.be/UD40W81eTDE

We are all connected, each and every one of us. Anytime "someone" makes you mad, angry, upset.....etc; what is happening is a conflict within ourselves. We cannot see, feel, experience what we do not already posses.

Our external experience, is always a reflection of what is going on within us.

Picture if you will, a Higher Intelligence... (which we are all a part of...), looking down upon us. Their observations of our human conflicts, (anything from personal arguments all the way up to wars) would appear exactly like the scene from the movie Liar Liar when Jim Carrey went into the bathroom and proceeded to kick his own ass.

We may think it is "Us" and "Them" but once we grasp that we are all one and the same, we will begin to understand how counter-productive it is to fight with anyone, because we will realize that we are only really fighting with ourselves.

We are . . . "Kicking our own Ass!!!

"The meaning of your communication is the response that you get" NLP presupposition.

Mis-communication is the number one reason we have conflicts. Developing an understanding based on the above NLP presup will Inspire us to take responsibility for our communication which will in turn create Harmony in our lives.

Dedicate the month of May to be in Full Control of our own communications and interactions.

Smile,
Wade

April 2015

One important element in creating what we want is to learn to live on Purpose. Many of us go through each day living by default. We can (sometimes) take on the challenges we face, yet feel we have zero control. That is living by default!

Learning to Live on Purpose is developing an understanding that our Reality can be controlled. We are the creators of our own personal Realities. This can be a hard concept to grasp. A simple exercise may help us begin to see that we do create our own Reality, either by default, or on Purpose:

Take a few minutes to get in touch with what you Think, Feel, and Say throughout your day. Now, as you get in touch with your Thoughts, Feelings, and Words; notice now how what you are Thinking, Feeling, and Saying, reflect the reality you are experiencing. Take your time with this and really think about it. As you do, you will realize that your Reality is a perfect match to what you have been Thinking, Feeling, and Saying.

There are many keys in learning to Live on Purpose. A great start is to Pay Attention to what you are Paying Attention to. Build an Awareness of what you are Thinking about, how you are Feeling, and what you are saying throughout the day.

If what you are Thinking, Feeling, and Saying is not what you want your Reality to be...; then shift your Thoughts, Feelings, and Words to reflect what you want your Reality to be. By becoming Aware of what we are Thinking, Feeling, and Saying, and then shifting it to match what we want our Reality to be, we will create the Reality that we want. 

Try this for one month and have fun with it. By the end of the month you will be convinced of how Powerful you are!
Make April the month that you make a commitment to Live on Purpose and become... Empowered! 

Smile,
Wade

March 2015

. . . A World Without War . . .

"World Peace"... It is something that is becoming more and more urgent.
What is World Peace?
Why does it seem so difficult to attain?
Why does it seem to be so fragile?

I feel there is something deeper than Peace, and I believe that something is Love, Harmony, and Understanding.

We can have Peace without having Love, Harmony, and Understanding.
But when you go deeper and have Love, Harmony, and Understanding first...,
Peace comes naturally and in a much more Solid and Powerful way.

Russia and the USA have been at "Peace" for a long time, but there has been no Love, Harmony, and Understanding, and as we can see the "Peace" is beginning to fall apart.

Anytime there is a conflict, of any kind; Political, Religious, Racial, or Personal, with family or friends; without exception, the conflict begins with MisUnderstanding.

We first need to commit to Understanding ourselves. That will help us to then Understand others, and as we do, Love and Harmony will begin to flourish. We will then have a Solid and Powerful foundation of Peace! 

Smile,
Wade

February 2015

Life is meant to be Joyous, but then again . . ., "Life Happens".  

Unexpected events and situations occur that can force us to ask;  "Why?"  
 

"Why did this happen to me . . .?" 

"Why can I not . . .?"

"Why do I keep . . .?"

"Why is everything . . .?"

"WHY!!! . . .?"
 

Why???... well....  Why not?  What if the "Why" that is happening to you...  is actually happening for you?

What if the Why is meant to Empower you?
 

When an event or situation makes us ask ..."Why?", what if it is meant to make us think. . .?;  to Challenge us!
 

What is the difference between Why... and Y?

The difference is You!
 

Sometimes we can get lazy or complacent, or take things for granted.  

Maybe when a "Why" shows up in our life, it's not necessarily a bad thing.  

It may actually be meant to Wake us Up, to Inspire and Motivate us!  
 

 The "Why" is just a way to Empower.... You.
 

Make FebruarY the Month You become Empowered and in Full Control!!!

Smile,
Wade

January 2015

Ahhhhh... there is nothing like a fresh new year, full of unlimited possibilities and untapped potential.

Remember what Albert Einstein said, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

Make a commitment to yourself to change the things that are not working for you. You can start by simply beginning to become Aware. Begin to make an effort to really pay attention to what you are paying attention to. Ask yourself if this thought is moving me forward or backwards, is it helping or hurting, is it depleting me or Energizing me?

When we first begin to pay attention to what we are paying attention to, it can be a huge awakening! The first few weeks most people are taken back by how many negative or self-limiting beliefs they actually think each and every day.

When we change our thoughts, we change our reality. When we pay attention to what we pay attention to, we shift from living by default to Living on Purpose.

"Ignite Your Inner Torch" and make 2015 the year you become Empowered!

Smile,
Wade

December 2014

The end of November is always a beautiful opportunity to reflect on all of the things that that we are Thankful for. This in turn strengthens our Appreciation and Gratitude, Empowering us to Be in the moment as we journey through December.

December can be a very hectic and stressful time of the year when we think about all the things we need to accomplish. Finding the time for shopping, decorating, baking, sending cards out, working, and getting time in to see family and friends can be a daunting task.

We can turn the potential Chaos that December may bring into Power by making it a point to Be in the moment; to enjoy the journey. A useful process to accomplish this is to breakdown everything that needs to be done into small, easy to accomplish "to-do's". Get it out of your head and onto paper, then begin to "Chunk" it down into more manageable tasks. 

There is something magical that happens when we make the effort to write our thoughts onto paper. As we begin to "Chunk" down our "To-do's", we begin to see things differently. All of a sudden the Chaos is gone and we become Empowered.

By taking control in this way, we will allow ourselves to Be in the moment and enjoy the journey. Too often we are either at points A or C, completely missing the B. A and C are just the means to and end. Life's journey is in the B; in the Being. We are after all, Human Beings.

This month make a commitment to Empower yourself and enjoy the journey by Being in the moment. Make 2015 a year to Be in Full Control!

Smile,
Wade

November 2014

I was recently sent a question, which got me thinking...
The question was worded as follows:  

Hey There,
Hope all is well.
In your opinion, is a thought about "not liking someone" a negative thought?

Howdy,
If that someone is me... Then, yes, it is a very negative thought!!! : )

My actual opinion is that it is not a negative thought unless you allow it to affect you in a negative way. This in turn results in you effectively giving away your Power.

I think it would be almost impossible to "like" everyone.  To truly know how you feel about someone requires some insight. Here are 2 methods that can help you evaluate your thoughts/feelings when you "don't like" someone.

1) See if you can "Love" them.
We can Love someone but not "like" them.
What ever it is that we Saw, Heard, or Felt within another that caused us not to "like" them could always change.
Being able to Love unconditionally is a Powerful place to be. It will allow us to see them deeper than what they are showing from the surface.

2) Dig deep and see if there is anything about them that is being reflected from you.
We can not "see" anything that we do not already possess. Sometimes that someone who we "do not like" could be in our lives to simply help us see ourselves more deeply.

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves."
Carl Jung

Smile,
Wade

October 2014

A friend of mine shared with me that in her relationships she is always "one foot in - one foot out" This got me thinking and I realized from talking with a lot of people that this is actually very common.

When we approach a relationship, or even life, with "one foot in - one foot out" we will develop a type of security blanket... Serving a purpose in one way, but limiting us in many others.

The problem with this type of security is that it gives us a false perception of protection from getting hurt, and the illusion of being in control. It will also limit us in not allowing life to play out its full circle, which is critical for growth.

If we do not fully commit to a relationship, or life, then how can we honestly expect anyone else to?

Not committing totally by having "one foot out" is like dancing on "one foot". We can do it, but it will look and feel awkward, and we will always be out of sync. The "dance" is much smoother and more beautiful when we use "both feet."

Making an agreement with ourselves to always start any relationship, and life, with both feet in and fully committed will allow us to fully enjoy the "dance." Remember to stay committed and complete the "dance"... don't anticipate a stumble and step out before it has actually happened. Allow for a stumble or two until the "dance" is complete.

In order to seek out the true capabilities of each relationship, we must allow ourselves to be fully committed to our partner; both professional and personal. By staying in the "dance" we will learn the limitations and capabilities of each relationship, eliminating any false expectations and giving us the power to be in Full Control.

We would not want to do the Tango with a Two-Stepping Cowboy. Our commitment with our Tango partner will be totally different than it will be with the Country dancer. By being committed with both feet in, we will be able to get the best out of each and every relationship.

Just be sure to always allow yourself to fully enjoy the Dance..... with, "Both Feet"!!!!

Smile,
Wade

September 2014

Forgiveness, like Appreciation and Gratitude, is a Powerful attribute to have. The opposite of Forgiveness is Resentment.

Resentment robs us of our strength, weakens our Integrity, and limits our perception.

"Anger is a wind which blows out the lamp of the mind"
Robert Green Ingersoll

Not allowing ourselves to forgive keeps us stuck in the past. It creates Resentment, which never fixes or solves anything, and will ultimately result in only hurting ourselves.

Forgiveness is not letting someone "off the hook"; it is the opposite. Forgiving someone is actually holding them accountable. By forgiving we are making a statement that we are in control of our Power.

There are also times when we need to Forgive ourselves. Forgiving ourselves is an act of Learning: Growing and Letting go of the past to Empower us for our Future.

Forgiveness allows us to move forward. Forgiveness gives us Strength, builds our Integrity, and gives us the Wisdom to see Unlimited Possibilities... allowing ourselves to Be in and Stay in Full Control.

Smile,
Wade

August 2014

Each morning when we wake up and go through our day, we will: on purpose or by default, negatively or positively, influence someone or something.

A lot of times we are in default mode, not aware of our own Energy and Power, or the effect it can have on situations and the people around us; including ourselves!

Try this: Set a stopwatch for 2 minutes. As soon as you start the stopwatch, frown. Frown for 2 minutes, paying attention to the emotions and the feelings you have.

Set the stopwatch again for 2 minutes. As soon as you start the stopwatch this time, smile. Smile for 2 minutes, paying attention to the emotions and the feeling you have.

Notice the different energy you are able to create by a simple frown or smile. Now if you put feelings and emotions behind that frown or smile, you will supercharge it!

This is also what you will be giving to others as you go through your day, either by default or on purpose. Being aware of our Energy, and of our Power is the first step to being in Full Control.

Set your day:
Make it a point that the first thing you do when you rise in the morning is to set your intention for the day. This is such a small but extremely Powerful act. By setting your intention for the day, you have chosen to be Proactive; to be aware; to live on purpose and to be in Full Control.

Smile,
Wade

July 2014

"If you have built castles in the air your work need not be lost.
That is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them."

Henry David Thoreau


Our Imaginations.... Our Dreams....
Our Visualizations... Our .... child-like... "Pretending"

This is how everything.... Everything..... becomes reality!

But there is a Dance....
A . . . Give and Take....
A . . . Ying and a Yang
An . . . Ebb and Flow

Life can seem to test us at times....
Pushing and Pulling...
Giving and Taking...

Why is this?

Maybe.... To see,
How deeply we...
Believe in our Dreams.....

How deeply we...
Believe in ...... Ourselves!

As Elsa Joy Bailey said.
"Don't let other people's opinions burn holes in your dreams"
Believe in Yourself!

When we truly ....... 100% .... Believe in ourselves..........
Is when the Magic Happens!
Creating Unlimited Possibilities!

Develop your own Powerful Foundation:
Acknowledge and take ownership of the Amazing soul that you are, and then,
Step into your Greatness... Believing in Yourself!!! And let the Magic.... Transpire!!!

Smile,
Wade

June 2014

"Don't let other people's opinions burn holes in your dreams."

Elsa Joy Bailey


Everything you see around you started with a Dream.

A Dream that kept growing stronger with Imagination.
Imagination that stimulated Inspiration.
Inspiration that created Motivation.
Motivation to turn it into a reality.

Dream Big
Dream Colorful
Dream Out loud!!!

And then take Action!

Smile,
Wade

May 2014

"Change the story and you change perception;
change perception and you change the world."

Jean Houston


Albert Einstein's definition of Insanity is, "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

If what you are doing is not working for you then change the story. Change how you see things; how you think about things. Step back and see it from a disassociated perspective. To disassociate is simple yet powerful. All you have to do is see yourself in the situation or event as if you are watching yourself in a movie.

When we allow ourselves to disassociate we are able to see things from an elevated perspective and a neutral place. From this place we can see many different opportunities and choices that are not available when we are "in" the event.

We always have choices. The challenge is "remembering" that we have these choices and then to take action to put ourselves on a brighter path that coincides with our desires.

Disassociation allows us to change the story, to see different paths.
Disassociation is a Powerful place that will put you back in Full Control. 

Smile,
Wade

April 2014

"Life" is always, without exception, ready for us to take it by the horns and.... LIVE!

Even when we choose to turn our backs on "Life" ... to feel alone in "Life".....

.......We never.....Ever... are.... alone!

No matter how much we may try... for whatever reasons... we are... Never - Ever... alone... "Life".....is always...on standby....... to LIVE!!!

Sometimes, and more than not..... we need support to instill hope, to remind us that Life is always ready and waiting for us to Live it!!!!

Hope is available from many places.
A friend or loved one...
A random acquaintance...
A community...

The most powerful place to find Hope is the belief in being a part of something greater than ourselves. Whatever that is for you.

The Magic begins...
when we acknowledge that we are...
"A part of"...
Not separate from...something greater than our individual selves.

We are then open to allow Pure Positive Energy to move through us

Inspiring ...
Motivating ...
Encouraging Us ...
To Live Life and assuring us we are never ever alone!

"Sticks in a bundle can not be broken"
African Proverb

Smile,
Wade

March 2014

"What is life? It is the flash of a firefly in the night. It is the breath of a buffalo in the wintertime. It is the little shadow which runs across the grass and loses itself in the Sunset."
Crowfoot, a leader of the Blackfoot nation

If we let it, and sometimes before even noticing it . . . Life can get away from us. Work - Responsibilities - Deadlines - even our hobbies and "fun activities" can put a strain on our time. As we are juggling all our commitments, it can seem like life is just passing us by. We are going though the motions, but we are not.... "Living" life. We are constantly at either "A" . . . or . . . "C" and we completely miss the . . . "B". . . We completely miss the, "Living" . . . the . . ."Be"ing. Being present . . Being in the moment . . . Being aware of and appreciating the ever changing Now! 

For the month of March make a commitment to yourself to . . . "Be."
Be Present.
Be in the Moment.

Pick a morning to Be with a glass of ice cold refreshing water, or a cup of your favorite tea or coffee. Don't just drink it... Be with it! Notice how it looks - the sounds you hear - how the glass or cup feels in your hands, and then against your lips. How it feels as the liquid passes over your tongue, glides down your throat, and into your body.

Take a walk by yourself or with a loved one and Be aware of all the beauty... Be aware of . . . The Sights - The Sounds - The Feelings you have. Pay attention to your breath, breathing in pure oxygen, feeding your body with health and vitality.

When is the last time you gave yourself the gift of witnessing a Sunrise or Sunset? Not just watching one, but really Being present with one? Dedicate just 1 morning and 1 evening this month to fully experience a Sunrise and a Sunset. Find a perfect location and allow yourself to totally absorb what you See - Hear - and Feel; to completely Be with the Sunrise and Sunset.

Caution, this could all. . . Be . . . addicting! : )

A . . . Be . . .C

Smile,
Wade

February 2014

"The inner struggle is extremely difficult for all of us, because we all have faults, severe ones, that we will struggle with forever.... It's wise to accept that faults are inevitable. Factor that in and keep going."

Alice Walker


I agree that we all have faults that come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. I also agree it is wise to accept we all have them and to keep going.

However, it is my belief that we do not need to "struggle" with them. I feel we should acknowledge them and see what we can learn from them. Be curious about the "faults" we have. Ask a question to yourself. "What is the purpose of this fault I have? What can I learn from this? How can I improve or be better? What is this "fault" of mine not allowing me to see? Or, is it causing me to see a distorted reality that hides a part of the complete picture?

We can be in control by learning what our faults have to teach us; not repressing or fighting against them. As we are asking our questions from a point of curiosity, we can gain even more Power by inquiring from a Disassociated Place. By seeing yourself as if you are in a movie asking the questions, you will have insight from a Higher and more Powerful Perspective.

The next time you feel you are "struggling", take in a deep breath. As you release your breath, allow your body to become completely relaxed. As you continue to breathe long deep breaths, visualize or imagine seeing yourself from above. The answers that come may surprise you. The Control this gives you will Empower you!

Smile,
Wade

December 2013

Life is about balance, feeling the flow of positive and negative energy and allowing those energies to guide us is how we can stay balanced and in full control of our power.

Positive or negative energy is neither good nor bad. They are simply a guide to keep us on our path, beacons to let us know if we are drifting to far off course.

If we ignore our personal energy beacons, we will become out of balance, causing us to spin out of control.

A wonderful gift we can give to ourselves will be to make a commitment for 2014 to become in tune with our energy; to really Trust and Believe in ourselves, in our power. Doing this will build a powerful foundation for our personal beacons, allowing us to always be in balance and in Full Control.

Smile,
Wade

November 2013

"There's a self expansive aspect of gratitude. 

Very possibly it's a little known law of nature:

the more gratitude you have, the more you have

to be grateful for."

Elaine St. James

With all of our daily distractions and responsibilities we can easily forget many of the "little" things that we have taken for granted.

Gratitude is a wonderful energy to be in, and it can include anything;  from being grateful for your family, to being grateful for running water, indoor plumbing, or toilet paper. .   : )

21 days is what it takes to make or break a habit, and Thanksgiving is the perfect timeto develop a Powerful Transformation.

Here is a fun challenge to create some of your own magic:  
Starting on Thanksgiving, or anytime this holiday season:

* First thing when you wake up each morning, consciously think of something you are grateful for.  

* As you go through your day, continue to have your background thoughts be based in gratitude. 

* Last thing before going to sleep at night, consciously think of what you have been grateful for.  

This will set up a nice foundation to for your 21 day Transformation.

As you go through each day in a grateful state of mind be aware of all the wonderful "coincidences" 

that begin to occur all around you and the positive effects that transpire in your life! 

Be committed - Make yourself reminder notes - Have Fun!

Smile,
Wade

October 2013

By not "fixing". . . we "are" fixing.
As we get older, wiser, and take on more responsibilities, we may find ourselves running around trying to "fix" everyone and everything. Then, before we know it, we realize that we have become so strung out that we are not fixing anyone or anything. If you catch yourself going in a dozen different directions at 100 miles per hour . . .

"Slow down, you move too fast.
You got to make the morning last.
Just kicking down the cobble stones.
Looking for fun and feelin' groovy."
      Simon and Garfunkel

Understand that if we allow ourselves to slow down and relax, to just "Be", with ourselves or someone else and listen . . . we will be fixing . . . without . . ."fixing"

Becoming in tune with ourselves will tap into an energy, a love, that is more powerful than anything we could ever offer as a "fix" Fixing by Not "Fixing", is . . . Powerful!

Smile,
Wade

September 2013

" For many years, at great cost, I traveled through many countries, saw the high mountains, the oceans. The only things I did not see were the sparkling dewdrops in the grass just outside my door."

~Rabindranath Tagore~

It is natural when we feel lost or confused to seek outside ourselves in the attempt to feel better or to find answers.

As we try harder and harder to find the answers outside ourselves, we can become more and more exhausted, confused and overwhelmed, creating a feeling of hopelessness.

These are the times that we have forgotten about the beauty and wisdom that lie within each of us. Unfortunately going inside is the last place we seek, but is where our power resides, just waiting to be sparked.

When we do stop to search within, either on our own or through the guidance of someone we trust, we are able to tap into our own reservoir of wisdom, where we find an endless supply of inspiration, guiding us to the answers we seek.

Believe in yourself.
Trust yourself.
Ignite your Inner Torch and allow your Beauty to Shine from the inside out, creating harmony, grace and power. . . 

Smile,
Wade