December 2018

                                               

Drops

Our minds are like containers, and our thoughts are like drops of paint.

Negative thoughts/energy are considered to be heavy - dark - black. Positive thoughts/energy are considered to be light - illuminating - white.

One drop of black paint in a container of white paint…,  will not create any difference.

However, if a few more black drops go in…, the contents in the container will begin to change. If we add more black drops, we will visually be able to see the contents in the container is different.   If small, seemingly insignificant, black drops continue to go in…, eventually the contents of the container will become completely black.

At anytime we choose, we can begin to add light - illuminating - white drops, back into the container, and in time it will become as it was.

It is important to understand that…, it takes a lot fewer black drops to turn the white paint to black, then it takes to turn the black paint back to white. 

This is why it is so important to take responsibility for our own thoughts and to be aware if they are negative or positive.  

The good news is, no matter how dark our container has become, purposely adding white drops back in, will begin to create a shift. With time, patience and persistence the Transformation will happen.

We always have the power to choose our thoughts…, “ black or white.” It has been and always will be up to us to decide in which way we will choose to think.


Dedicate the Month of December to choose what color drops you want to put into your container.  

Smile, Wade

November 2018

                             Life is Funny


It is easy to be Thankful..., to be Grateful…, when Life is easy.

What we forget…,   is that it is actually more Powerful to be Thankful / Grateful when Life is not "going" our way. 

When Life seems to be the hardest, or most challenging, is when we tend to react instead of taking the time to Learn, to Grow, to…, Respond.

We instead have a knee jerk reaction:

We resist…,

We get mad…,

We become resentful.

 

But these seemingly difficult events are actually telling us…, Reminding us…,

to “BE” Thankful.

To be Thankful…, for what we can overcome.

To be Thankful…, for the lessons we will learn.

To be Thankful…, for letting us know that we may have drifted off course.

 

It is reminding us that we need to pay attention. To really…, Pay Attention:

to Our Thoughts, 

to Our Feelings,

And to…, “BE”…,   Be Responsible and take Ownership of Our Reality.

These are the times when we need to Appreciate Life…,

These are the times when we need to be Grateful for Life…, The Most.

 

Dedicate the Month of November to pay attention to what you are paying attention to, and to “BE” . . . Thankful 

 

Smile, Wade

October 2018

             

Its not what you do, but How you Do IT, that makes the difference


A friend of mine from the Marines gave me his permission to share an exchange we had recently:

 He asked me,      “How is your business?”

I answered,         “It’s super busy!”

He said,              “Good for you.  You chose a wise business to get into.”

I replied,              “It’s not necessarily the business…, it’s how you run it.”

He said,              “You wisely chose a product and service that is in demand,

Some people choose to go to cosmetology school and think they are going to

get paid to put make up on…, not so wise.”

I said,                  "If you are a good cosmetologist, you will find plenty of people 

                            to put make up on and be successful”


 My friend had fallen into the “Grass is always Greener” delusion. He had no idea of what it took for me to build my business.

 It’s not necessarily what you “Do”, or “Choose to Do”, that creates Success…,   It’s how you Do “it”, that makes the difference.

 The most important step is to first Believe in Yourself…, and then apply that belief to give you the Confidence, Inspiration and Passion to do “it” better than anyone else can.

It will take Hard Work and Many Hours to be Successful, but the Magic is in the Belief in Yourself. 

 As you continue to Believe in Yourself…, the Hard Work and Many Hours will be Rewarded. 

 No matter what “it” is you choose to do…, if you Believe in Yourself…, 100%...: 

The Hard Work…, will not seem so hard,

The Many hours…, will not seem so many, and…,

You Will be…, Successful.

 Dedicate the Month of October to Believe in Yourself, and become Empowered with Confidence, Inspiration and Passion to be Successful!!!

Smile, Wade

September 2018

                                                     Judgement

 

 

Most of the time the only one who really judges you is…, you.                                                        We seem to constantly Judge ourselves…, what we could have done…, what we should have done…  And most of the time we focus on the negative…, and we judge . . . Ourselves. 

We walk into a room with people we have never met, or even our own work place, and the self - judgement begins.  We think it’s the other people immediately judging us, but the truth is, it’s all originating from within.

We judge who we are, or are not, what we are doing, or are not doing.  Then, subconsciously, we will surround ourselves with people who support our beliefs.   Those who will see us in the way we see ourselves. To judge what we are or are not doing, what we have or have not done, good or bad, right or wrong, thus acknowledging our self-limiting beliefs, and therefore making them “Right”.

We will also tend to Judge others based on our experiences, our beliefs, without even knowing the person we are Judging.  We will Judge others to justify our beliefs, to help make us feel better about ourselves.  

But when the water stops boiling…, when the dust settles…, the truth is revealed.                      That truth is that we are not perfect.  Every one of us has, and will continue, to make mistakes. Yet, we are Magnificent in our own unique ways.  We are all doing the best that we can do.

The most important thing is how you see yourself.                                                                         The way we choose to see ourselves can either demoralize us…, or Empower us.                 Whichever one we choose…, we get to be right. 

As Henry Ford said:                                                                                                                       “Whether You Think You Can or whether You Think You Can’t…, You get to be Right”

And then, in order to be…, “Right”.  we subconsciously attract people, situations, and events to support us…, to Judge us. The reality, is that we are simply Judging ourselves.

We all have more potential…, more capabilities…, more Love…, than we will ever realize.We simply need to just stop Judging…, and Start LIVING!!!

“Dance as if Nobody is Watching” …, because remember…, most of the time the only one that is really doing the judging is ourselves… and anyone else who would judge…  well … they don’t  matter!

Dedicate the Month of September to Remember all of your Magnificence…,                                    and live each day without Judgement!

Smile,                                                                                                                                              Wade

August 2018

                                        How Can “I” make Today a Good Day

Flowing with the theme that Nothing - “No Thing” can make us happy...,                                      Here is a very Powerful Question to ask ourselves:

How can “I” make today a Good Day?

Sometimes without even realizing it, we find ourselves relying on our                                         Mom - Dad - Brother - Sister - Husband - Wife - Girlfriend - Boyfriend - Employees - Employer- Grandma - Grandpa - Aunt - Uncle - Best Friend - etc...,                                                to make our day a good day.  Yet when we do that, we give away all of our power,                              all of our..., potential.

Simply asking;                                                                                                                                  "How Can “I” make today a Good Day?"                                                                                             Is Empowering!

You will find that just by asking yourself this question, your imagination will ignite;               opening up doors to unlimited possibilities.

Do what ever it takes to remind yourself that you always have and always will hold the Power to be in Full Control.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Write the question: How Can “I” make today a Good Day,  on a sticky note and stick it to the mirror in your bathroom, on your desk at work, in your car or wherever you need to in order to remind yourself that you have a choice and that you hold the Power.  No matter what is happening around you, you have the power to Make Today a Good Day!

Dedicate the Month of August to become in Full Control and make every day a Good Day!  

Smile,                                                                                                                                                Wade

June/July 2018

                    

                                   Nothing - (No Thing) Can “Make" us Authentically Happy      

                                       "If you are not happy here and now, you never will be”                                     .                                       Taisen Deshimaru

One of the most misguided thoughts that we can ever have is the thought of . . . “When”, 

“When I get the right mate, then I will be Happy.”

“When I get a good job, then I will be Happy.”

“When I get a house, then I will be Happy.”

“When I get that, Car - TV - Phone - Vacation - Project Completed - Degree . . . then . . .                       I will be Happy.”

            Like the carrot hanging in front of a horse artificially moving him forward.

The reality is even if or When we get the “carrot”, the happiness we thought it would create does not materialize, or at best it will be very short lived.  

Of course a good job, mate, home, etc are nice to have, but the problem lies when we allow ourselves to think that these things . . .  will be “The” answer to our happiness.

Seeking things outside ourselves to make us happy will always be an artificial and very shallow type of happiness.

Searching from the Outside - In, for happiness is like the horse chasing after the carrot hanging in front of him, he will never get the carrot as we will never find . . .                                                   the right home,                                                                                                                               the right mate,                                                                                                                                 the right job . . .                                                                                                                             that will create the Authentic happiness we all seek.

Strive to be Happy no matter What . . .                                                                                                    No matter what you may or may not have, and allow yourself to be empowered with the realization that, nothing… no thing outside yourself can or ever will bring you authentic happiness.

True Authentic happiness comes from within.                                                                                 Our power comes from within ourselves, not from things outside ourselves.  As we allow ourselves to be happy no matter what,                                                                                                                 we open our Hearts and allow this energyto flow through us,                                                         resonating with our true nature,                                                                                                        with who we really are,                                                                                                                        and what has always been with us since birth . . .                                                                              and this is where we will find Pure Authentic Unconditional Happiness!  

Dedicate the Month of June and July to Live on Purpose, to live from the Inside Out                         and feel the Power of True Authentic Happiness!

Smile,                                                                                                                                              Wade

May 2018

                                                        Integrity

Integrity: Merriam-Webster:                                                                                                               1:  Firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : Incorruptibility.                             2:  An unimpaired condition : Soundness.                                                                                                3:  The quality or state of being complete or undivided: Completeness.

Integrity is, in my opinion, one of the most important characteristics to strive for.                             It is doing what you say you are going to do, when you say you are going to do it.                        This includes following through even when it may be “inconvenient.” 

When we make a commitment to make Integrity a part of our character, we will follow through and do what we say we are going to do when we say we are going to do it with others, but can sometimes forget to include ourselves.                                                                                                                It is important to remember to apply the elements of Integrity,                                        Incorruptibility - Soundness - Completeness,                                                                                   to our own personal goals also.

My daughter and I, from time to time, will make bets to help keep us on track for achieving our personal goals.  Even though this helped, we would still find ourselves struggling to follow through.  This led me to send her this text:

“With your approval, we are going to make a shift…  We are still going to keep the same structure for the month, but we are not going to let each other set ourselves up sub-consciously for failure.  When we declare we are going to do something, we are now going to take the mind-set that we have just “promised”   (“given our word”), to…, The…, Most…, Important…, Person…, In…, The Entire World!!! ——  OURSELF!!!                                                                                                                                         If we are making a promise to the most important person in the entire world (OURSELF), then we will surely follow through!”

When it comes to having Integrity, we may not realize that it applies to ourselves as well.  We may think that keeping promises to ourself is not as important as keeping our word to others we have made promises to.  We may disregard the promises we made to ourself thinking we are not as important.                                                                                                                                         We…  are not…  The…, Most Important…, Person…, In…, The Entire World!!!

Yet we are…                                                                                                                                        We must be…, because if we don’t Believe in ourselves first, then we cannot be a part of something greater than ourselves.

We are all a part of something greater than our individual selves. We are all a part of a very Powerful Energy. This Energy is called different things to different people:                                                               God - Love - Buddha - Christ Consciousness - Spirit . . .                                                                and it is in this place where the pure elements of Integrity,                                             Incorruptibility - Soundness - Completeness, resinate.

To be a part of this Energy requires us to Believe in ourselves,                                                            to feel this Beautiful Energy from within.

Everything Begins ….  “Within”   With - In….  Ourselves!

Dedicate the Month of May to make a “Promise” to Believe in Yourself,                                  acknowledge that You Are Important, and build Integrity into your character.

Smile,                                                                                                                                              Wade

APRIL 2018

                                                               Kick The Ball!

Have you ever been involved with a group or a project where it seems like nothing is getting done?

Several years ago, I was a part of a group like that.  We were tasked with the responsibility of organizing a charity project.  At the beginning, I made sure to let everyone know I was available to do anything that was asked. The only problem was…, nothing was being asked, and nothing was getting done.  I decided to step in to get the ball rolling.  Most of the group was very receptive, but a few became defensive.  This surprised me, due to the fact that my intention was not to take charge, but to simply gain direction and to get “something” happening.

I, personally, am a very simple, straight-forward man.  I like to be told the truth, as it is, and I will also state it as I see it.  It has not been nor ever will be my intention to dictate and expect everyone to blindly follow.  I also will never pretend to agree, nor would I want anyone else to!  

It does not matter if I am playing the role of a Coach or a Player.  I will always commit 100%.       As a Player…, I will Listen, ask questions if necessary, and perform with the rest of the team.          As a Coach…, I will Lead by example, Inspire, and Motivate to the best of my ability.

In my opinion, neither is more important than the other.                                                                    A bunch of Players without direction would be a disaster, and maybe worse…,                                  a bunch of Coaches without any players would be…, a waste of time.

If I see a game ball just sitting in a beautiful field of grass, I have an unstoppable desire to…,    KICK THE BALL !!!                                                                                                                      Because, if the ball sits on the grass too long, the grass under the ball will die.  As long as the ball stays moving…, everyone and everything benefits! 

Just because “I” kicked the ball does not mean that I kicked it the only way it can go, or even in the correct direction.  I just want to get the ball moving and keep it moving!                                          If you like where the ball is going, then get behind it and KICK it harder!                                          If you do not like where the ball is going then…, get behind it and KICK it in a different direction! Most importantly…, get behind the ball and KICK IT!!!

Whether you are a Coach or Player, an Employer or Employee, Teacher or Student, White Collar or Blue Collar…,                                                                                                                       Remember that the direction the ball is going is not as important as getting behind it, and keeping it moving!

Dedicate the Month of April to Acknowledge your relevance, and become Inspired to Kick the Ball!

Smile,                                                                                                                                                 Wade

 

March 2018

 

 

                                                    What is Success?

Success can easily be overlooked in our daily lives.  

A friend of mine shared something she heard at a seminar she attended,                                    “Once you make it to the top of a Mountain, you don’t stay there for very long”

Success is:                                                                                                                              Accomplishing Goals…, Winning a Competition…,                                                                           and, “Making it to the top of a Mountain”,  but it is also so much more.  

Success is not limited to just our big accomplishments.  It is also, and maybe even more importantly, our smaller daily accomplishments:

* Smiling at someone who is rude.

* Pushing past our comfort zone to improve ourselves.

* Being grateful.

* Learning something new.

* Loving our imperfections.

* Being on time.

* Growing from our mistakes.

* Forgiving.

* Going to bed with no regrets.

Don’t overlook the smaller, individual successes that we accomplish every day.  Remember, getting to the top of the Mountain, as thrilling as it is, is only temporary.  This is why our daily small individual Successes, like the examples mentioned above,  are the most Powerful Successes we can have.

The beauty of Success is that every day we wake up,                                                                           it is waiting for us.

Dedicate the Month of March to Acknowledge your Successes!

Smile,                                                                                                                                                 Wade

February 2018

                                You cannot get it, if you don't already Posses it

Lets say that again….. “You cannot get it, if you don’t already Possess it”                                      One more time………. “You cannot get it, if you don’t already Possess it”

Now take a couple of deep breaths in and out.  Then a few more…, really, really…, deep breaths.  In and…, Out…, Continue to do this  ”Deep Breathing” until you can feel yourself completely relax.

And now hear it again…, “You cannot get it, if you don’t already Possess it”

When you first read the statement…, you may have thought …, “Posses what?”  But yet deep down…, you knew.  As you asked again…, you still may have thought…, “Posses what?” And as you took several deep…, relaxing breaths.  In…, and Out…, You may have still thought…, ”Posses what?” But I assure you, deep in your core, your Being was already becoming naturally in Harmony with…:

                  Simple…,  yet Extremely…, and Unconditionally…, POWERFUL…,

                                                       ……….LOVE……….

For January, you Dedicated the Month to “Acknowledge” Yourself!  Now it is time to apply it.

Everyone…, Each and EVERY ONE of US…, has a Unique and Beautiful Purpose.  A very…, Unique, Beautiful, and POWERFUL Purpose!!!  And here is the Key that we seem to so easily misplace…:  Every PURPOSE is just as Important as any another!!!  When you boil them all down…, when you take out all the “Outside” misguided influence…, everyone’s True and Authentic Purpose boils down to…, Love.                                                                                                                         Simple…, Powerful…,  AUTHENTIC…, Unconditional LOVE!

We All, Each and Everyone one of us, has a Beautiful and Powerful Purpose that we must Acknowledge.  The Magic…, The Power…, can only Flow when we:                                               Stop looking from the “Outside”…, In.                                                                                             Stop waiting for someone or something “Outside” ourselves to Validate who we are.                    Stop comparing ourselves to other people…, to “Outsiders”.

Now is the time to Own It!                                                                                                                  Now is the time to Step into and OWN your Unique GREATNESS!!!                                                 Now is the time to TRUST and BELIEVE in YOURSELF!

You will know it when you have it because everything…, Everything…, “Outside” yourself simply begins to Harmonize from Deep Within.

You see…, with Unconditional Love:                                                                                                  There is no Judgement                                                                                                                      There is no Politics                                                                                                                            There is no Race                                                                                                                                 There is no Gender                                                                                                                           There is no Religion.                                                                                                                           There is no “Status quo”

There is…, Just…, ONE;  and it is Pure,  Authentic, and Powerfully Beautiful!!

Dedicate the Month of February to be in Harmony and Love Yourself…, Completely - Authentically - and Totally!!!                                                                                                                           Remember, you can not get it, if you don’t already Possess it.

Smile,                                                                                                                                                  Wade

January 2018

                                               Acknowledge Yourself

A fresh New Year is here, full of Unlimited possibilities.                                                                 We usually start out with eager determination to make it the best year ever;  setting resolutions and goals to accomplish.                                                                                                                       But then it happens…,  we miss one of our goals…, then a second…; then we begin to beat ourselves up.  We become tempted to just give up and abandon our Resolutions and Goals. 

So how do we stay on course?  How do we not get disappointed with ourselves as we have a hiccup with one of our resolutions or goals?

The key is what we focus on.                                                                                                         What we tend to do when we don’t do what we set out to do, is focus on what we didn’t do.  And as you just read that, you first thought was probably… DUH!  : )                                                      But focusing on what we didn’t do is a negative energy.  It drags us down, and makes it harder to keep moving forward in accomplishing what we set out to do.  It can potentially sabotage our efforts altogether.  What we forget or overlook is that most, if not all of the time, we actually have made a lot of progress towards accomplishing our goals and resolutions.

Focus on what you did accomplish, not on what you did not accomplish.                                  Focus on what you did do, not on what you did not do.

For example:  Let’s say you set a goal to exercise 5 days a week, and you only exercised 2 days.  Don’t focus on the 3 days you did not exercise, or tell yourself, “I ‘only’ exercised 2 days.”                    Focus on the fact that you were able to Accomplish 2 days of exercising!                                          As you Acknowledge Yourself by focusing positively on the 2 days you did exercise, you will be naturally inspired and energized to keep moving towards your goal of 5 days.

When we set a goal or resolution, it is important to be realistic with ourselves.  Part of the process in any journey is preparing for certain setbacks.  Acknowledging that we may have a hiccup…, or two…, or three…, will keep us from beating ourselves up too bad when it happens.  This understanding will then allow us to keep our focus on what we did do, the progress we have made, and what we have accomplished so far.

What we tend to forget is that we set goals and resolutions to do something that we are not currently doing, to step out of our comfort zone and improve ourselves.  If it was easy, there would be no need to set goals or resolutions.  

 

Dedicate the Month of January To keep focused on your accomplishments, no matter how big or small, and Acknowledge Yourself for having them!

 

Smile,                                                                                                                                              Wade

December 2017

 

                                                              Why

Why are we…,  you…,  me…,  here…?   Why?                                                                                         Is it to Lead…?                                                                                                                                         Is it to Follow…?                                                                                                                                       Is it to be Complacent…?                                                                                                                         Is it for Retribution…?                                                                                                                           Is it for Righting a Wrong…?                                                                                                                    Is it to Create Harmony…?                                                                                                                      Is it to be an Example of Unconditional Love…?

Who really knows?

Why…?  Why are we here?

What is The Purpose?                                                                                                                         What is Our Purpose?                                                                                                                           What is Your Purpose?

Are we all individual and separate beings?                                                                                            or                                                                                                                                                  Are we all connected and a part of something greater than our individual selves?

Do we search outside ourselves for the answers?                                                                                 or                                                                                                                                                    Do the answers lie within ourselves?

Is there a right or wrong answer for any of the above questions?

I do not Believe that there is a right or wrong answer.                                                                        I Believe that the answer lies in our own very personal and very Powerful Beliefs.

When we take the time to check in and pay attention to our own personal deep down Beliefs,         we will notice that what we personally Believe in will match our own personal reality.

The beauty of Beliefs are that they are not set in stone. We have the free will to change our Beliefs anytime we want to.

We are all more Powerful than we realize, and that Power, or the lack of it, comes from our Beliefs.

 

Dedicate the Month of December to make a check in with your Beliefs.  If they match the reality you want…,  then keep Believing.  If they do not…, simply change them.  Either way, it is important to remember that our reality, and our Power, is generated by what we choose to……

                                                              “BELIEVE”

Smile,                                                                                                                                          Wade

November 2017

                                                  Are you a Victim or a Success?

Victim: (noun) a person who is deceived or cheated, as by his or her own emotions or ignorance, by the dishonesty of others, or by some impersonal agency.

Success: (noun) the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of ones goals.

 

With permission from a very good friend, here is an email exchange we had.  In Bold text are my friends comments followed by my responses: 

  I acknowledge the brave Union soldiers who gave their lives for a more perfect Union. Also, 20 million Africans died for servitude to a nation who were not allowed to vote until 1968.                                                                                                                             And that has been corrected!

 African Americans who were not wanted in the armed services.                                                 And that has been corrected!

 More black men locked up for an ounce of pot today.                                                                      Not sure if that is 100% true...  and if it is.... pot is still federally illegal….so don’t do it!

Need I stand for all the men of color shot down in the streets like dogs?                               Are you talking Whites shooting blacks down like dogs?…                                                          Cops shooting Blacks only down like dogs?…                                                                            Blacks shooting Blacks down like dogs?                                                                                        People just going in and shooting men of color in the streets for no reason other than they are men of color?!?!?........ Really???!!!   come on.... 

Should I be grateful for this?                                                                                                      Be Grateful for whatever you want to be Grateful for...    

One thing that never seems to get acknowledged is the experience I have had as a white male: For one thing…,  I have not a Clue what “White Privilege” is!!  As middle class caucasians, myself and my kids get NOTHING…,  ZERO…, in the form of assistance, no help in any way at all.  I also pay higher taxes and medical insurance premiums than those with free or heavily government subsidized assistance. When I was pursing a career as a Fire Fighter, it was made very clear to me that because of Affirmative Action, I would have to score higher, and work 3 times harder to get hired than other applicants of minority races/ethnicities.   

I am not saying that there is not a problem.  We do still need to work together and continue to strive to improve.  We also still need to acknowledge this fact:

Right now… In America…  there have been and always will be Victims.  If you choose to be a victim, wether you are Black;  White;  Male;  Female;  or whatever…,  you will find reasons to justify your Victimhood!!!!                                                                                                  And…,                                                                                                                               Right now… In America…  if you choose to succeed, wether you are Black;  White;  Male;  Female;   or whatever…, you can SUCCEED!!!!! 

We can banter on this to the end of time, and we can both come up with examples to justify and "Prove" our points of view!!

If you BELIEVE that being a Female, Male, Black, Brown, White, or whatever, is causing you to be oppressed and unsuccessful,                                                                                                            You will be right!

 If you BELIEVE that being a Female, Male, Black, Brown, White, or whatever, will not be an obstacle standing in the way of your success,                                                                                 You will be right!

I Believe that anyone…, ANYONE…, who tries to blame outside circumstances for their lack of success, and then use their gender or race as proof, is a total cop out.  And what is fascinating to me is that you can take either side, and surround yourself with countless people that will support you in that belief.

Why not focus on what we have done…?  How far we have come…?  And also bear in mind that America didn't start slavery!  It was a world wide pandemic long before the American white male came into the picture.    Stop living in the Past!!!  It is gone, and we will never be that way again.  We will only continue to get better and better as we move forward.  But only…,  if we STOP CHOOSING to live in the past and be a Victim!!!!

I am sorry, but I will not allow myself, my kids, my family, and any friend that will listen, to make a gender or racial excuse to justify a lack of success.

 

There are times when we tell ourselves that we are going to change our ways and become successful in a particular aspect of our lives.  What many of us don't do though is step out and away from the people and situations that will continue to pull us down.  We fall into the "misery loves company" mentality and surround ourselves with the very opposite of what we are trying to accomplish.  By choosing to take action physically, mentally and spiritually we can step out of victimhood and into success.

One of my favorite quotes is from Henry Ford,                                                                         “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.”

Today in America no matter what Race, Religion, or Gender you are…, YOU can be a victim!     And, today in America YOU can find lots of proof to justify why because of your gender, race, or religion you are being victimized.

Today in America no matter what Race, Religion, or Gender you are…,  YOU can be successful. And, today in America YOU can find unlimited proof of males and females of all races and religions that are successful. 

Pay attention to who or what you are paying attention to...; be conscious if it is holding you back, or moving you forward.

Dedicate the Month of November to Believe in Yourself and your ability to be a Success!

Smile,                                                                                                                                                  Wade

October 2017

                                              Commitment vs Convenient

To be Successful in anything we have to be Committed.

The United States of America became the powerful place that it is because of individuals that were Committed to have a better life.  If these individuals just sat and waited until it was convenient we would still be under British rule.

Successful marriages are the result of Commitment, not convenience.  It takes 2 people to be Committed to staying together durning challenging times;  times when it may be a lot easier and convenient to just bow out.  A lack of Commitment is one of the reasons why so many marriages end in divorce.

Any professional athlete, or entertainer made it big because they where Committed.  They did not wait until it was convent to study, to workout, to practice, to get up, to make tryouts or get interviews.

Commitment is the Key ingredient of anyone who is Successful.  Success comes from being Committed; Committed to studying harder, to practicing more, to getting up earlier, to not missing a workout, and striving to be better than anyone else at what they are doing.

Commitment is also the Key ingredient of any Successful group or organization.  It is not always convenient to get up early, stay late, give up part of your day or weekend to make a meeting, be on prescheduled calls such as a mastermind/conference/networking or webinar, finish a deadline, be a member of a church, show up on time for practice with your team, band or any group that you are apart of.

To be good at anything we do. . .; to be respected for whoever we are,  (A Father, Mother, Sister, Brother, Husband, Wife, Employee, Employer, Friend or Fo); takes Commitment.

Dedicate the Month of October to make a Commitment to yourself, and to be the very best you can be at anything you have chosen to "Commit" to.

Smile,                                                                                                                                              Wade                                                                                                                                               

August/September 2017

                                                              FLOWING

Life is always moving forward…,  constantly, and powerfully.   We can try to resist it…, try to stop it from moving forward…, or we can choose to flow, and grow with it.

Attempting to resist, or stop life from moving forward creates a tremendous amount of stress.  It is like building a very unstable dam that can, and will, eventually break.  After the break we are completely drained and become stagnate, until we muster up enough misguided energy to build another unstable dam, and repeat the cycle again.  Nothing can heal or grow when we are constantly resisting and tensing up, or being complacent and stagnate.  Resistance and Stagnation create disease, because we have stopped life’s natural flow.

Nothing can be more important than to make regular check-ins with ourselves.  We need to make sure that we are not resisting our day, but flowing with it!

Bruce Lee is a perfect example of Flowing.  He was a strong, but relatively small individual at only 5’ 7” and 128 pounds.  Despite his small frame, he was able to easily take down heavier and stronger opponents who should have been able to crush him.  How did he do it?  Bruce Lee knew that trying to resist against the strength and mass of his oncoming attacker was not the answer.  He was able to easily defeat his opponents because he was a master of the “Flow”.  Bruce Lee would Flow with his opponents energy instead of resisting against it.

The first four letters in "flower" spell “Flow”  A simple flower can be a Powerful reminder for us to always pay attention to how we are "Flowing".

Dedicate August and September to see how Empowering it is when you choose to Flow with life!

Smile,                                                                                                                                              Wade

July 2017

                                                            The Mirror

As we move forward and embrace the fact that it is our very own Thoughts and Feeling that create our very own realities, we can then realize that it is our very own Thoughts and Feelings that are responsible for our success and also our failures.

Henry Ford said;                                                                                                                           “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right”

The mirror is a powerful resource. It is like a loyal and honest friend.  It tells you the truth, it has no agenda, no reason to placate.  The mirror simply reflects back exactly what you are thinking and feeling!

We never want to look in the mirror and realize that the one looking back is the cause of any stress or anxiety.  We want to look in the mirror and see a person looking back that is calm, relaxed, strong and in Full Control.

Many famous and influential people utilize the mirror before any speaking engagement or meeting to lock in exactly how they want to present themselves.  They rehearse their speech in front of the mirror, tweaking and fine tuning it.  This exchange with the mirror gives them unquestionable confidence, allowing them to deliver a powerful speech and/or meeting.

Try this exercise to understand not only what a powerful resource your mirror is, but also how quickly you can become in Full Control.

Think of something that you are going to have to do in the future that you are not looking forward to, and that when you think of it, causes you anxiety.  Really allow yourself to feel that anxiety as you are thinking about this future event.

Now stand in front of the mirror… notice what you see… notice your facial expression, your body posture, the energy being reflected back to you.

Now step away from the mirror.  Take a deep breath in and slowly release.  Forget about that future event and focus now on something you enjoy, something or someone that every time you think of it it makes you smile, it brings a warm wonderful feeling from deep inside.  Now really allow yourself to feel that wonderful feeling, feel that smile flowing from deep inside and now lighting up your face. 

Now stand in front of the mirror again… notice what you see… notice your facial expression, your body posture, the energy being reflected back to you.

As you continue to stand in front of the mirror, acknowledge the person looking back at you with wonderful positive energy, full of confidence. Now think about that future event, as you continue to see this powerful confident person.  Notice what you see… notice your facial expression, your body posture, the energy being reflected back to you.  Notice how that future event is different now, how you are already thinking of ways to relax with it, to be calm, to be in Full Control.  Now step away and continue to hold on to that feeling and acknowledge yourself for what you are able to achieve!

Remember this, Light always dissolves darkness. Positive energy will always dissolve negative energy. What we forget in the hustle and bustle of daily life is that we always have a choice. Always!

It is simply about Trusting and Believing in ourselves.  Looking in the mirror and if we do not like what is being reflected back, stepping away, taking a deep breath in, slowly releasing, feeling yourself relax, and allowing unconditional love, courage, and confidence to flow throughout your body.  Then step back in front of the mirror, and see the Amazing person looking back.

Dedicate the Month of July to utilize the Mirror to Empower yourself!  

Smile,                                                                                                                                              Wade

June 2017

                                                             I Choose

 

Words are a Powerful tool.  Most of the time we pay no attention to what it is we are saying, the impact it has on our lives, and how it in turn structures our reality.

The way we use words without even realizing it can zap our motivation. When we start out by saying things like:                                                                                                                                   I have to . . .                                                                                                                                               I should . . .                                                                                                                                              I got to . . .                                                                                                                                               I need to . . .                                                                                                                                           We are usually coming from a place of stress or guilt, which then keeps us stuck.  It pulls us down…,  shutting off all inspiration, motivation, and possibility.                                                            I should….  but….                                                                                                                                     I need to…. but...                                                                                                                                           I want to…. but...                                                                                                                                    and the “buts” keep flowing, giving us justifications of why we “can’t”.

One word alone that has a tremendous amount of power is the word “Choose”.

If we replace all the…                                                                                                                                 I have to’s…                                                                                                                                                 I should’s…                                                                                                                                                 I got to’s…                                                                                                                                                  I need to’s…                                                                                                                                           with, “I Choose” to…, all the “buts” fall away.  By saying “I Choose”,                                                 we automatically take responsibility and become open, allowing ideas to flow to us in ways that have been blocked before.

I Choose, Motivates us.                                                                                                                             I Choose, Empowers us.                                                                                                                          I Choose, opens up the doors to possibilities, giving us the Inspiration to move forward.

Simply replacing the I Should’s - I Want’s - I Need’s . . . to, “I Choose” is Empowering!

Dedicate the Month of June to pay attention to your Words and “Choose” to be in Full Control.

Smile,                                                                                                                                               Wade

April /May 2017

                                                                  Purpose

Nothing can be more Empowering than to have a Purpose, and Nothing can feel more hopeless than to think that we do not have a Purpose;  or not knowing what our Purpose is.

In Eric Greiten's book, Resilience, he writes;                                                                                  "When I was twenty, I lived and worked in a Bosnian refugee camp.  All the refugees had seen brutality and destruction.  They had lost everything they ever owned.  Many had lost friends and family.  And now they were trapped in a camp, living in shacks, feeding on bread and rumors.  Everyone suffered."                                                                                                                                   

"I was struck by one thing.  It seemed that the people who were doing best in the camp were often the parents and grandparents of very young children.  They knew that they had to wake up every day and be strong for someone else.  The people who had the hardest time were the young adults and older teenagers.  They felt that their lives had been cut short.  They woke up everyday with no prospects for a job or for school. "                                                                                                                                          "The war had made them aimless, and aimlessness hurts.  The teenagers who were doing the best were often those who found something else to do.  They volunteered in the kindergarten or coached the younger kids as they played soccer.  The people who did the best in other words, found a way to live for something at a time when a lot of people around them didn't know why they were alive at all."

The people Eric witnessed doing the best were the ones that knew they had a Purpose.  It’s not that the ones he witnessed struggling did not have a Purpose, they did.  We all do…, but sometimes we get lost and forget.

Purposes come in many shapes and sizes.  Some may seem very big:                                             "My Purpose is to stop world hunger"                                                                                           Some may seem small:                                                                                                                       "My Purpose is to smile at a stranger today"                                                                                Some may take time to complete, and others only seconds.                                                          Some may take a lot of effort, while others may be effortless.

Big or small, every Purpose we set has tremendous power.  What is important, is to Believe in ourselves enough to set a Purpose.  We must believe we are important and that we can make a difference no matter how big or small it may seem.

As you begin to consciously dedicate yourself to set a Purpose, you will find that other Purposes will crop up.  Before you know it, you will be flowing through a Purposeful and Powerful life!

Having a Purpose is the spark that inspires us to get up each day to better ourselves and to improve the life around us.

Dedicate the Month of April to wake up each day . . . on Purpose!

Smile,                                                                                                                                                 Wade

March 2017

                                      Thrive or Blame which will you . . . Choose?

 

Recently, I’ve noticed a trend in society’s current state of affairs.  It seems that instead of taking personal responsibility, many people are playing the “Victim” and the “Blame Game”.  They are trying to convince themselves, and others, that it is not their fault…, that they do not have any control over what is happening around them.  By choosing to be a Victim, they are giving away their Power.  Blaming everyone and everything except themselves can drown out any inherent Trust and Belief they possess within.  

Concerning ourselves with the beliefs of others can also aid us in justifying our Victimhood.  Take for example a large organized event or movement.  It feels good to organize or be part of a big event.  So much so, that we can allow ourselves to feel that by getting “involved” with something outside ourselves, that we are taking responsibility.  It’s easy to get swept up in the group’s common cause and forget about our own individual beliefs, leading to a sort of “mob mentality” about certain topics.  This, in turn, leads us to blame the “opposing group” for the problems we’re facing.  

There will always be causes and battles, that we can be a part of, that will assist us in blaming others to justify our Victimhood.  This group justification can become very big, and the bigger it gets, the more it will distract us from the fact that the Power always has and always will come from within.                                                                                                                                      

We will always be able to find something or someone to blame…,  it is actually very easy.          

Until we change from within, acknowledging our own Power…,                                                     Until we separate ourselves from the group dynamic…,                                                                  Until we take responsibility for our own lives…,                                                                              Until we Trust and Believe in Ourselves…,                                                                                           We will never Thrive!

This Trust and Belief in ourselves is critical to maintaining our Power.  It is ok to organize or be part of a big event to bring awareness to a topic you feel strongly about.  Yet, if you let yourself become engulfed in a movement without evaluating your true reasons for being there, you give away your Power, and continue to play the Victim and the Blame Game.  The Power, exemplified by people like Dr. Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, Gandhi, and Abraham Lincoln, came from within and was not the result of the beliefs of others.  It was their Trust and Belief in themselves that drew others to their cause.   

No matter what Gender or Race we are,                                                                                          Now more than ever, if we Choose to, We Can Thrive!                                                                         It takes hard work and dedication, but there is proof all around us of people from every gender and race Thriving!

No matter what Gender or Race we are,                                                                                          Now more than ever, if we Choose to, we can Blame others for not Thriving!                            Oddly, it takes just as much hard work and dedication, but there is also proof all around us of people from every gender and race Blaming!

Thriving and Blaming are like Oil and Water.  Both are very real, but they cannot be combined, they repel one another.                                                                                                                  Blaming is Giving up on Yourself, making excuses of why you can’t, trying to justify that it is not your fault.                                                                                                                                       Thriving is Trusting and Believing in Yourself, giving you the Power to Be in Control and accomplish anything you Choose to.

Think of the concepts of Thriving and Blaming as two very Powerful Rivers;  always flowing through life’s journey.                                                                                                                   Both Rivers are very crowded with people, both Rivers have many others to “Be” with and feel supported in!

The one on the left is the River called Blame.                                                                                  The one on the right is the River called Thrive.

For every Person that has Chosen the River of Blame to Repress them…,                                    There are other People that have Chosen the River of Thrive to Empower them, Believing in themselves and making this world a better place! 

When you Trust and Believe in Yourself, you become Empowered, and no one or nothing outside yourself can Stop You!

Dedicate the Month of March to Believe in Yourself . . . and Thrive

Smile,                                                                                                                                              Wade

February 2017

 

 

                       Entering the Kingdom of Heaven through the mind of a child

 

No matter what religion you are, there is a great lesson to be learned from the bible when Jesus said,  “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.”

We are born with innocence, life being our vey own open canvas, ready to learn and grow.  As children, our imagination is pure, unrestricted, and abundant.  We engage and share our imagination with adults and they in turn support us, and for a moment get lost in our colorful imaginations.

Then something happens…, something changes…;  our innocence and imagination is taken from us by the very people who at one time supported us.  It’s not intentional, it is simply a repetition ofwhat happened to them as they became Adults.  We are told wenow have to grow up, we have to be “Realistic”.  Life is hard and we have to be responsible. 

We then repress our imagination, we become “responsible Adults”, we work hard and for the most part we lose our innocence, we lose our “spark”.  

It does not have to be one or the other, we can have them both.  We can be Adults and child-like, with an unrestricted imagination.  It is called “Balance”.  If we focus completely on being an “Adult”, we will be out of balance and weak.  If we focus completely with ourimagination we will be out of balance and weak.  Balance is the key to life, it is the ebb and flow, the yin and yang.  It is the dance of living life to its fullest.  Having Balance is having Strength. 

Albert Einstein said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge”

Knowledge and Imagination are meant to work together.  There is no other combination that is more Powerful.

Knowledge is what we gain as we grow and take responsibility for our life.  Imagination is the critical link to turn our knowledge into something magical.                                                               Nothing exists that was not first Imagined…, Nothing!                                                                    We dream it, we Imagine it and then we gain the knowledge to create it.

Imagination inspires us - Imagination drives us - Imagination keeps us young!

Dedicate the Month of February to “Change” or better, to “re-engage” with the child that lies within you.  Commit to re-engage with your Imagination.  Allow it to flow pure, unrestricted, abundantly, and Re-Ignite your Spark!

Smile,                                                                                                                                               Wade